Quotesmall things don't get resolved because people want to avoid conflict, and then these small things evolve into these huge issues that eventually have to explode in one way or another.
I like this observation by a3! It's a little bit agreeableness-axis-focused, as in conceptually anchored in this one idea of agreeableness as if it's the only thing that matters (a3 later says "you can explain a lot of group behaviors with agreeableness alone," which... like... yeah, you can explain a lot of things with one concept if you're hyperfocused on it. that's kinda how explanations work. they're stories, they're focused on whatever you want them to be focused on.) but broadly speaking, I think people have a better idea of what they want, themselves, than what other people want, and problems arise when people act to minimize their own desires in favour of those they perceive on others.
QuoteAll of it completely unnecessary.
It's easy to say this kind of thing in hindsight, or as an outsider, but the fact is that processes involve failure.
QuoteBut to a disagreeable person (like me), as long you're not doing anything immoral yourself, you're not stealing from anyone and you're not buying things that are stolen, then there's no issue.
Why should a disagreeable person care about being immoral, or stealing, even? Why should an agreeable person care about buying things that are stolen, if it's from a person in their in-group, stolen from a person in their out-group? These groups are ill-defined.